You are in love with this girl so you decided it’s time you manned up and told her your feelings. You tell her once, she says she’s not interested. You ask her why, she says she just doesn’t feel anything for you; there’s no apparent reason. What do you do? Do you keep telling her how much you love her and the extent to which you will go for her? Or you just let go and move on? Also which is a better option?
One rule doesn’t fit for every woman
You should know who you are dealing with. Some women will fall for your persistence because they see it as a sign of “true love”. They believe that a man that loves them truly will do anything to win them. More often than not, such women may be in need of love. Maybe they grew up in homes where their parents didn’t really care for them. Or they don’t love themselves that much and depend mostly on others love. Or maybe, they just hold love in really high esteem and would want to be so much loved.
What happens when you try to use the same formula for a woman that’s so self-assured and confident? A woman that’s looking for a man that will stand up to her when she’s displaying her prowess. She won’t accept your constant disturbance. She would rather want you to display dominance. She would want a man that doesn’t waste his time begging for a woman to accept his love. In that case, this won’t work at all.
People are complex
People are complex, among those people, women are even more complex. Now you should know that each one of them is attracted to or by different things. What you have to do is to really understand the person you are dealing with.
You should get to know the person before you let them know your intentions. They might even display signs that shows they like you if you pay attention. They may drop hints about what moves them and what doesn’t. They may drop hints about whether or not persistence will work.
There’s a thin line between giving up too easily and knowing when to persist or quit. Sometimes ignoring them and staying a friend will give them the impression that you have your own life with or without them, which is something that’s attractive to most women.
In whatever you do, don’t appear needy. Don’t become that guy that begs for love. You can be persistent in letting someone know you love them without looking like a beggar each time. Do it confidently. Compare these two:
Needy: Hey, I know you don’t love me but please try cos I can’t live without you. I’m nothing without you.
Confident: Hey, you’ve told me you don’t love me but I just hope I can change your mind cos I really do love you. I can’t force you but I just want you to know.
Hope I’ve gotten through to you. 😀