Every year, on New Year’s eve we have a list of things we would like to do or not do in the coming year. You may not have written it down but most of us at least have something at the back of our minds that we would like to let go or achieve. It may be a financial goal, it may be a habit you want to quit or an addiction. Whatever it is, you certainly need God’s help. Yes you need God’s help, but on the mental level there are some things that hold us back to the extent that we can’t even look up to God in the first place.
1. Unrealistic Goals
One of the major things that hold us back from achieving what we plan for the New year, is setting unrealistic goals.
What is unrealistic ? Unrealistic is highly relative. Depending on your level of self confidence, level of faith in God and in yourself, depending on your level in the skill that will help you achieve your goal some goals may be unrealistic. There is serendipity but goals must be believable in the first place to help your mind open up to the endless possibilities in the universe.
You are currently working 8-5 throughout the week. You currently earn less than $500, then you set a goal that you will build a mansion worth 1 million US dollars in a year! Great dream! No doubt. But deep down, do you believe in that dream? Can you hold it in your mind? Can you keep trying and believing for even a month? We all have levels of faith and abilities. According to your faith, choose a goal that’s believable!
2. No plan for action
So you’ve set pretty great goals for the coming year. You’ve listed things you wouldn’t do. You’ve marked some addictions you want to break. Nice. What’s the plan?
While you’re not drinking, masturbating or gambling what will you be doing? What do you plan to do each time the urge comes up? When you slip what’s the plan to get back on track? Again, there’s serendipity, there are uncertainties and there are miracles but having no plan at all is not acceptable! You have to have a path to follow, then along the path miracles will happen!
What’s the plan to start earning a 4 digit figure in the coming year? Will you quit your job and start a business? Or you’ll just sit there looking at your goal?
3. Fear and self doubt
Sometimes you look at your goals and say If this were achievable, John wouldn’t be here because John is way better than me at skill A and B. Maybe there’s something I’m missing No!
We all have different goals! You want to earn money, someone wants to teach Science because they are happy to share the knowledge they have acquired. They may have that knowledge in abundance but they don’t care about money, you do! Use the fraction you have to make the money, don’t wait for them!
And so what if you fail? You’d have gained experience to try it from another angle. It’s way better than sitting and assuming!
4. Some things are just spiritual
You may argue, but some things have their root cause being spiritual. Pray, just pray! You have plans of marrying but there’s a strange trend in your family. No nice marriages, only baby mamas and baby daddies. Anytime you try to plan for a wedding, things go awfully bad and you have to divert all your savings into other things. Your plans and strategy alone won’t help in this case. Pray!
5. Self discipline/consistency/commitment
This is by far the most important thing if you ask me! If you decide to achieve something, you need to take baby steps in building your proactive muscle, building your commitment ability. You have to stick to the plan no matter how much you lose interest along the line. It happens. No matter how you love your dreams, you will grow tired at a point. Rest if you must but do not stop. You become self discipline by practice. Eat at the time you’ve planned to eat, go to bed on purpose don’t just doze off, read the book you said you would read. With time, you’ll begin to trust in your own dependability and you will be able to apply your self discipline to more difficult tasks. It’s the little things; that’s how habits are formed anyway.
Here are just five of the many reasons you’re letting go your resolutions even before January ends. Think about it, you could actually turn things around if you try hard and well (put your energies in the right places). Happy New Year!